“…the strongest predicter from childhood of becoming an abusive parent was not having been abused, but rather having felt as a child that one was unloved and unwanted by one’s parents – an attitude common, of course, among abused children, but also found in families in which there is no overt abuse.” (NYT)
Through all their missteps, stumbles, downfalls and mistakes never let your child doubt your love while you guide them through the rough stretches of growth. Break the cycle of abuse that started way back and seems to get passed from one conditioned psyche to another…good for their well being and so good for yours. Let them fully blossom.
“Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be
satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience.”