We waste so much of our lives tethered to this task, that struggle, those priorities…then we seek to slow down to salvage, to regain health, mental stability, time… I don’t have an answer, beyond instincts, to survive after much lost time. Explaining this to our children and grandchildren is the remaining task.
Some reports estimate that over 75% of elders with dementia are cared for in home usually by spouses and family members. Further, over a third of those caregivers will succumb to pronounced depression, exhaustion and anger. While the focus is on the elder with dementia and the sadness, frustration and realities this causes you, be mindful that the one spending all day, all night caring for that loved one….another loved one…may be suffering on many levels and keeps it from you with that stoic or smiling persona. Have a plan of care and support for the ‘patient’ and the caregiver. Somber times, harsh realities, not time to turn away.
Early morning, it’s still. Lean forward and inhale the soft fragrance of an open rose.
“When nothing else exists from the past, after the people are dead, after the things are broken and scattered…the smell and taste of things remain poised a long time, like souls bearing resiliency, on tiny and almost impalpable drops of their essence, the immense edifice of memory.”
“The finest quality of this stone, these plants and animals, this desert landscape is the indifference manifest to our presence, our absence, our coming, our staying or our going. Whether we live or die is a matter of absolutely no concern whatsoever to the desert.”
“Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be
satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience.”